How many times have you started out really motivated to meet a goal - whether it be to lose weight, exercise more or cut back on spending - only to find your motivation dwindle as the weeks go by? Staying motivated to accomplish a goal can be really difficult.
One of the most common questions I get asked in my private practice is “How can I stay motivated to stick to my eating plan …. or to stick to my exercise program?” This is a difficult question to answer as there are many components that go into making someone motivated. One of the problems that I see is that we tend to set unrealistic goals (i.e. getting back to our college weight) or take on too many goals at once (i.e. I want to quit smoking, lose 40 pounds and get back into exercise). We get caught up in our busy lives, get frustrated with slow progress (as most of us want “instant gratificiation”) and lose focus. Consequently, our confidence and motivation goes by the wayside.
Here are some tips to help you stay motivated and meet your goals:
1. First, give some serious thought as to what your goals are and why you want to meet them. For example, if you have a home office that is full of clutter and you have found it impedes your work performance, your goal could be to de-clutter your office. Improving your work efficiency would be a great motivating factor. Or perhaps, you found out you have a health problem that can be controlled, at least in part, by a healthier lifestyle. Improving your health would also be an excellent motivating factor.
2. Assess as to whether or not you are really ready to make the needed changes. If you are in the middle of changing jobs or having relationship problems, now may not be the best time to think about making these changes. Making changes take a lot of focus and hard work.
3. Make sure your goals are realistic. If you haven’t exercised in years and/or have a really hectic schedule, setting a goal of exercising 6 times a week will likely set yourself up for failure. Exercising 3 times a week is a better goal to start with. Or perhaps your goal is to lose weight. If you are currently 45 years old and weigh 150 pounds, trying to get to your college graduation weight of 115 is not a realistic goal and will only set you up for failure.
4. Break the goals down into smaller, specific goals. Think about setting monthly, weekly and even daily goals. This is what most of us do in our jobs, so why not do it in our personal lives? For example:
- If you want to lose 40 pounds, rather than focusing on this amount (which may seem overwhelming), start with a smaller goal of 1-2 pounds a week or 5 pounds a month. Once you have met that goal, aim for another 5 pounds. Meeting these smaller goals will give you
the confidence to meet your larger goals.
- If you want to pay off your outrageous credit card bill, set a goal of paying off a specific amount each month.
- If you want to train for a 10K road race in 3 months, set up weekly training goals.
5. Enlist support. Asking for support from family, friends or co-workers can help you meet your goals. Ask your husband to buy a flavor of ice cream you don’t like (if such a flavor exists). Ask your
gym rat boyfriend to give you a gentle nudge to hit the gym with him 3 times a week. Ask your secretary to remove the candy jar from her desk (which is 15 feet from your desk) … or at least buy a kind of candy that you don’t love.
6. Track your progress. Writing your goals on paper can make them see more real. For example, if you are trying to limit your
spending, keep a log of everything you spend. The same would go for a food or exercise record. Then write out what your daily or weekly goals would be. Compare what you actually did to the goals you set. Seeing that you were able to meet at least some of your goals can bolster your confidence.
7. Reward yourself each time you meet your goal. Of course, make the reward appropriate. No point in rewarding yourself with a pizza after losing 2 pounds or buying a $800 pair of Gucci boots after you paid off a credit card! Here is a tactic that worked for one of my clients - she was trying to cut down on the amount of wine she had each night. So every night she was able to avoid wine, she added $5 to a jar. This was a good incentive for her to meet her goal.
8. Maintain a positive attitude. Focus on what you were able to accomplish rather than what you weren’t able to do. Ok, so maybe you didn’t meet your goal of exercising 3 times this week. But you were able to exercise twice - which was more than what you were doing a few weeks ago. Or perhaps you didn’t meet your goal of losing 2 pounds this week. However you felt much more energetic and had fewer sugar cravings. Focusing on the positive rather than the negative will increase your chances of ultimately meeting your goals.
Bottom line, setting smaller, more concrete, attainable goals will increase your chances of meeting them. The more small goals you meet, the more confidence you will gain. It is also more likely that these small changes will start to become a part of your lifestyle. This will eventually enable you to meet your larger goals. Keeping a positive attitude is a key factor in helping you meet your goals.
So get out your pen and paper and start to tackle your goals step by step!
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